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Four Ways to Spot a Wolf

What I am about to tell you is a true story…

After careful consideration and planning, my little girl and I adopted a dog from the animal shelter. We were ready for the responsibility and my travel had slowed down. So, we made the trip to the animal shelter and saw the most beautiful dog. He was well-behaved and he was the only dog who didn’t bark like crazy.

My daughter fell in love with him instantly. I told her we would go home and think about this over night and then come back. There was much to consider adopting this dog. He was big, had lots of hair (which meant there would be lots of shedding) and would need extra walks and exercise. Not to mention all the food he would eat.

The next day we go back to the shelter and we take him out for a walk. Yes, I fell in love with him too! OK, this is our dog; he will be a part of our family. We adopt him, micro chip him, and get his shots. Then we go to the store to buy the toys, the leash, the food, and crate. My daughter named him Mordecai, Mordy for short.

Mordy was the perfect dog! He was so well-behaved, not one accident in the house, he walked nicely with us on the leash, he was affectionate, followed us around the house, and he NEVER barked. Because I was a single mom, Mordy also brought with him a sense of security as a potential guard dog.

Everyone commented on how beautiful he was. He would hold his head high as he walked proudly down the streets.

But people kept asking me the same question, no matter where we went, comments about his beauty were always followed by, “Is he a wolf?”

“No, he is a husky mix.” I would answer, because that is what the papers said.

The day came for Mordy to get the snip. You know… the snip male dogs get. I drop him at the vet and in a few hours I go back to pick him up. “Surgery went well,” the vet tech told me. And then she asked me the question… “Do you know what kind of dog you have?”

“Yea, he is a husky mix.” I answer.

“No.” She tells me. “He is a wolf.”

Everyone saw it but me. This began to explain a lot.

After the honeymoon period, Mordy’s wolf side started to show. You see, in a wolf pack there is only one alpha. In my home Mordy viewed me as the alpha. He went from the best dog ever to a wolf challenging my position as alpha. It became quite intimidating, let me tell ya!

What I viewed as a well-behaved dog, was actually a wolf in waiting.

He never barked because wolves don’t bark. He could have never been the watchdog protector, because he would assume the alpha (uh, that would be me), would take care of any intruder. He would go back and forth, one minute the best gentle dog, and then the next minute a wild wolf. It was unnerving sleeping with one eye open.

I was sad when I had to find Mordy a new home. He is now with a man who knows how to handle wolves. But, I did learn a valuable lesson from this experience. Wolves do not make good family members. You can not tame a wolf.

I also learned another lesson. Sometimes people are like wolves. The Bible warns us about wolves in sheep’s clothing. I met a few wolves. And I think I have learned how to spot them.

You may not recognize them right away, because like Mordy, they are very attractive at first. They are on their best behavior. They are well-behaved, gentle, and do whatever it takes to get into your home. They will lull you into a false sense of security. Then their true nature will start to show. It will be subtle at first, and you will think things like, “Maybe he is having a bad day?” or “Maybe I am not giving her enough attention?”

Then they will watch for your vulnerabilities. They will challenge you. They will bite you right in the backside. Not only will you begin to feel “not safe” with them, you aren’t safe period; because it is not in their interest to protect you. Remember, they wants to dominate you, because that is what wolves do.

They will begin to shed their beautiful coat, leaving a mess for you to clean up, and they will no longer be attractive. It starts little by little and at first you will doubt what you are seeing. After all, they were so beautiful, how did they get so ugly?

Remember the walks you used to enjoy? Forget that! Because they don’t want to walk with you anymore; now they just want to pull you into the oncoming traffic.

This is how to protect yourself from being deceived into bringing a wolf into your home and unsafe relationships.

1. Listen to the people closest to you. If they cry wolf, you just might have a wolf.

2. Don’t fall for the pretty coat. Eventually they will shed their coat. What’s underneath is what is important. To be clearer, the Bible says it like this; you will know them by their fruits. Look for these fruits.

But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can bring a charge].-Galatians 5:22-23 (Amp).

3. A wolf will not protect you! If they don’t have your best interest, if they are self-centered, if it’s always about them, then you may have a wolf.

4. If they are not genuine, are short-tempered, lack self-control, and you don’t trust them to not bite you in the backside…

RUN! You have a wolf!